Dating for large people
Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags took to the network and decided to mock fat people – mostly women, but men too – from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.
Now we could dwell on the fact that these various winners are not gym-sculpted Adonnises themselves, but instead I want to focus on the positive and work on people’s lives instead of trying to stroke the hate-boner.
I have never been “the norm.” I have been overweight all my adult life (see also heavy, curvy, voluptuous, fat, “BBW” — whatever term you want to use).
Every dating app has its supporters and its naysayers.
The app was launched to help “BBW (big beautiful women), BHM (big handsome men), plus-size singles and fat admirers” find love.
“The unfortunate reality is that the current dating environment is very cruel to bigger girls,” the app’s San Francisco-based CEO Neil Raman told Raman got the idea in 2014, when the dating website Simple Pickup conducted a social experiment in which a woman showed up to her Tinder dates wearing a fat suit, eliciting cruel and frustrated responses from her dates.
Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.
As a result, there haven’t been many positive remarks made by plus sized users,” Becky Han, a member of the Woo Plus marketing team, told However, the app has received quite a bit of criticism, especially with one particular aspect: While women must be plus-size to use the app, men don’t have to be, which many feel gives the app a “fetishizing” quality while further categorizing plus-size women as “other.” “For me it feels that instead of addressing the way plus-size women are treated in society – and most certainly on the dating scene – we are having to further separate them,”London-based plus-size blogger Callie Thorpe told .
“Personally I am also not a fan of the term BBW – it makes me feel like I am a fetish purely for men and I’m not comfortable with that.
And then I suddenly found myself afraid to publish it so it's been in a folder for a few months.
I don't know why, but I finally felt like sharing it.
They wanted something honest about being my size and dating in Los Angeles.